Friday, May 7, 2010

Free time, what free time?

As any other Stay at Home Parent knows, there is no "free" time when you live and sleep at work. There is always something that needs to be done. Whether that be in the yard or in the house the to do list is never ending. I guess that is one of the challenging things about being a SAHD (Stay at Home Dad)... you never get to point where you can cruise for a bit.

Well you can cruise, but it is because you ignore what needs to be done. When I worked "outside the home" I would periodically get to a point where all my to-do's for the day/week were done and I could enjoy some guilt free time doing whatever. Of course that was when we made enough money to have someone clean the house and take care of the yard so the stuff around the house was done.

I still like this better but every once in a while I miss a piece of our past. But I do so knowing that our memory has a way of "scrubbing" the past and making it look all nice and shiny:)

Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back.
Harvey MacKay

The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once.
Albert Einstein


1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Over the past three and a half years as a SAHD, I've found my free time increased for two primary reasons. One, the kids got older and could do relatively more for themselves (they are now 7 and 4). The second and more subtle reason for having more free time is making intentional choices to simplify our lives. We've simplified our commitments, our schedules and our possessions (still working on this last one, though). It has and always will be a process, but it has gotten easier. Also, a mental shift which had great effects for me was to practice viewing everything as optional. Who cares if the yard is mowed every 10-14 days instead of once a week? If the neighbors don't like it, they're more than welcome to mow it for me. Everyone has different commitments and schedules, but rarely, is everything as important as we make it out to be. Our minds have a way of making us think that, though.